Royal Court of Bullshit Goes to Hell

I was recently made aware of a blog where they bashed my friend and business partner and was appalled by the tasteless drivel that they spouted on their blog, not only about my friend but also about others. The utter hatefulness of their comments and rants left me taken aback and almost feeling battered. I felt sad, disappointed, outraged and appalled by what I read. I'm not going to give a link back to this site because I'm not going to help spread their hate and negativity to others. I pray that God shows them the right path because right now they are on a pathway to hell with no escape in sight. This is my response to their crap:

After reading some of the posts on this blog I have to say that I'm quite honestly disgusted with the character YOU have displayed with this distasteful dish rag of a blog. It literally made me sick to my stomach to see the things you wrote about people, whether it's true or not. I have to wonder what sort of life you really have if you have so much time to speak badly about other people. You put people's very personal, very private, and real information on this site and yet you want to hide behind anonymity? Are you kidding me?! I'm not so stupid to take someone's word whom I do not know nor have ever met in my entire life, make me base my personal opinions on someone else. My own experiences control my opinions and views on people, not your vindictive, tasteless, and tactless little rants. Anyone that does, which I notice a few of you have, I pity your lack of intelligence and laziness. Are you so lazy that you have to take anonymous and hypocritical bloggers' words for someone else's character and have them make up your mind for you? That's incredibly sad.

In your post you claim that she is messy and yet the bloggers of this site are the Royal Court of Complete Bullshit and Hypocrisy. You also seem unable to go one second without using foul language and resulting to childish and immature name calling. I call into question your RL age because you have the mentality of a 10 year old with a chip on your shoulder. What kind of person, what HUMANE person, goes about putting other people's real life information on blast to a world of complete strangers, especially if said information was originally told in confidence. What type of character must you all have to be able to do that to someone? And also what type of human being would ridicule a person in an abusive RL relationship. Now whether it's true or not is not something I care about because I think your site is all garbage anyway but the fact that you are capable of saying and doing such things says more about you than the person you target. If you or any of you followers see that type of ridicule as valid then I know you have not been in such a situation yourselves because anyone that has been there knows it's not something to wish on another human being or to be seen as deserved.

I have seen drama come in go, in second life and in real life, and it's always same bullshit different day. Your profile says that you aim to stop drama on second life and yet you are an instigator of it. If the readers and followers believe that, then you're just as bad and disgust me just as much with your hypocrisy and stupidity. Let me lay some questions down for you all and see if it gives you another point of view. You put people's personal and real information out there for strangers to see, which could indirectly endanger their lives and I don't care how much you want to defend yourself with the whole, "Well they should never have told anyone in the first place." If they trusted someone enough to tell them their real information in confidence because they believed they were people of character, morals and integrity then that's a lesson learned but you just showed your true colors with this blog. What about your real information? Why don't you tell us your full names and address? Why don't you share your real life story with us if you are so squeaky clean that you can cast stones on other people. Are you so innocent that you can do so? Have you never made mistakes in your lives? Have you never told one lie in your life? (I really doubt that). From this blog alone I can surmise the integrity of your character and it has been found lacking in my personal opinion. Now, having said all of that, why should I base any of my opinions on a thing you write in this blog? *listens to the crickets* My point exactly.

Oh to those that wish to leave Divas because of this trash I say only this - Get the fuck out. I'm sure they don't need weak minded people in the group.

PS. The only way to stop drama is to let it die, not bring it into the spot light. That's all I'm gonna say and I pray that God shows you the right path to take because from the looks of this you are straying. If you wish to delete this comment then go right ahead. Obviously you can't take criticism against your work and can't stand the spot light of common sense.

Have a blessed day and I'll be praying for your common senses and moral integrity to be restored.

Kay

If you don't like what you read then I don't really care. I won't delete your comments no matter how negative they are although if you use excessive cursing and can't be bothered to use proper diction then you may find yourself on the end of my delete and remove button. If you can't even spell correctly, what makes you think that you can even argue on the same level with me. Feel free to try to take shots but I have strong moral values and live by those values whether it be RL or SL and I have nothing to hide because I'm not ashamed of anything.

Tell my RL information or if I find anyone using my RL photos, which are MY property, then I will take legal action on you and have your shot dismantled quicker than a flash. If the only way you can fight is doing it dirty then you're not worth my time fighting anway because you are without honor.

Anyhoo that's all I have to say.

BDSM? Whips, Collars, Cages, Oh my!

I get this question a lot: "What is BDSM?" and it is always accompanied by variations of the same emotions across a wide spectrum of people- dismay, shock, bewilderment, confusion, misunderstanding, disgust, and morbid curiosity. So let me go on record and explain a few things for those that are so hooked up into the super information highway that you get nothing but the comercialized and sensationalized version of BDSM and it's meaning.

The compound acronym, BDSM, is derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D, B/D, or BD), dominance and submission (D&s, D/s, or Ds), sadism and masochism (S&M, S/M, or SM). It is characterized by two partners or people taking opposite and unequal roles. The slave or submissive gives up power while the Dominant/Master/Mistress takes control and is in control of the scene. Do not get it confused with the submissive having absolutely no rights and completely helpless. Lifestylers (those that follow the BDSM lifestyle) follow a set of rules and norms such as RACK or SSC. They are always aware of their limits and the safety of their partners. The submissive receives a safe word they can use and most Dominants and submissives take the time to discuss their likes, dislikes, limits, and whatnot before getting involved. They are extremely careful.

Now to say this: No I do not worship the devil and yes I'm a Christian and believe in God. [Shakes her head in disbelief] Just because I enjoy seeing my man kneel at my feet, wearing my collar and seeing my ownership on his body while I whip him or order him to my satisfaction does not have any reflection on my belief system or my soul. The minute I told my mother about this she claimed I needed to worry about my soul. For those that have been in the lifestyle or practice it to some regularity then you are as bewildered and saddened by these misconceptions as I am.

Now one of the hugest misconceptions is that the Dominant is being cruel and torturing the poor submissive. You're damn straight we're making those pathetic little fucks suffer under our boot heel and I can assure you that they are loving every humiliation filled second of it, those dirty little sluts. If they didn't like it they would say "no" and leave the scene. They're not as weak as one would think. In fact submissives tend to be very successful in all other parts of their lives and driven to succeed. Do not give them your pity as they do not deserve it nor do they need it. I can assure you that they have fun and mine even beg me for every slash of my whip or debilitating, humiliating word that comes from my lips to bring them to the ground like the sad little nothings that they are.

Another misconception is that us Dominants are completely heartless and nothing but bossy bitches. I can assure you for all of you so called "dominants" that have not done your homework or done SOME studying on the lifestyle then you have no idea of the responsibility that comes along with being a dominant. I take it seriously since I see D/s (Dominant/Slave) relationship as any other relationship that requires the same things to survive and succeed- trust, honesty, loyalty, commitment, communication, openness and obedience. Some people would argue that last one but it's one of MY things that I need to make a great relationship. [laughs] I for one do not give one flying fuck what you may think of me. I'm a cold hearted, sadistic bitch with sociopathic tendencies and I am not ashamed of that fact. I'm also loyal, loving, nurturing, and sweet beyond measure. Basically I can carve your heart out of your chest while smiling down at you like an innocent school girl discussing candy and sugar plum faeries. You can hate me or love me. Either way, you WILL respect me- whether you like it or not.

Now there are all types of dominants that specialize in a wide variety of fetishes and fields. I tend to dabble because I just don't believe in discriminating and if it pleases me I'm going to do it as often as possible. You'll read below that I do have an interest in financial domination but let me make this clear that just because it's an interest doesn't mean I dominate all my slaves this way. I'm not a cookie cutter domme and I do not treat everyone the same. If the slave has a penchant for giving up his money and suffering tremendously for it- as is the price for my pleasure- then so be it, let the fun times roll! If they don't enjoy it or don't like it, oh well, I'll be sure to put a memo out to the rest of the world.

But as I was saying before I got off on this tangent. BDSM is something that is so much more than just sex and whips and chains. It's a hell of a lot more psychological than just plain sex ever could be. Knowing that a submissive could cum without ever being touched- Hmm....you decide. And I've decided that I won't restrict this blog to what I do just on second life or my thoughts on second life but on real life as well. It will be peppered with bits of my wisdom, thoughts and trivial opinions. Enjoy suckers. haha

Financial Domination- What is it really?

Many think that financial domination is the same as some form of escorting or being a Pro dominant but I'm here to cut that shit out real quick when you talk to me. I am tired of seeing these sad fucking slaves and subby boys expecting me to jump through some fucking hoop to get their money. What the hell do you think I am- some fucking trick pony? In other words you're not looking for a Domme but some cheap or over priced used whore. Will I voice with you? Sure if you end up paying enough for the privilege. Will I cam? HA! How much money do you have in your bank account and credit cards? I am here to hurt you- period. I am not your fucking therapist, opra, or your damn Mama. So if you are looking for either of those then get a Mommy Domme or go on a child avi and get adopted to get coddled.

A Financial Dominant does not cater to a slave's demands or whims. A slave pays for the pleasure of knowing that he is contributing to her life in some meaningful way and giving his pathetic existence some measure of meaning. I find physical and sexual pleasure in seeing men suffer as they give me their money and whimper and cry about how much they are losing and how much I'm hurting them. Here's a news flash. I don't give a good goddamn how much you hurt because it's too entertaining for me to stop. And let me add this, try to compare me to some other insipid, idiotic, childish domme and I will cut you off so fast it will make your head spin. Some male sub came to me and when I started to exact my control he wanted to say how I wasn't like another Mistress he knew and had owned his collar. Like I care? Umm... One answer- Hell No. I'm not some other Mistress or Domme and I could give a fuck all what they do or how they do their shit. You want that then go crawling back to them like a beaten dog with your tail between your legs.

Now a Pro Dominant does not necessarily have sex with her client but they tend to "cater" to the submissive's wants and urges. I honestly don't see this as productive as the submissive is calling the shots. But I can also see the benefits for new submissives that wish to learn how to please a Mistress, how to better themselves in their service and explore their fetishes in a safe and controlled environment. But again, I'm not a Pro Dominant but I do not knock your jobs ladies.

An escort is exactly what it says- a whore. They are not necessarily a dominant or a submissive although they may be paid to play this role it's not their original and natural state. They're getting paid to fuck you, plain and simple. While I on the other hand wouldn't even touch your sorry asses or those tiny straining little pricks of yours. Honestly I'm commanding all you idiots out there that expect a Dominant to conform to your whims to get a quick fucking buck- go use that money to buy a fucking clue or rather come give me your money and I'll throw you to the dogs where you'll find out real quick the way things work.

------ The Bitchest Diva Kay

A New Beginning...

This is probably my fifth or sixth blog since I joined up with blogger or learned about this entire phenomenon. I have to admit that I tend to lose focus and forget that I even have a blog so this is going to be a challenge as I plan on finally finding the time to keep up with this one. I have to ask myself on occasion why I even start one but there's probably hundreds of reasons that I'm not in the mood to explore or have to time do delve into. I'm going to keep this blog centralized around my second life and less about my real although I may throw in tidbits of my real here and there that is not my real focus. Suffice it to say that I have a satisfactory real life, a good job, great friends, loving family, and a wonderful boyfriend who I adore even though he can be a pain in my ass on occasion but that comes with the territory of dating a Leo and a musician- yes you heard me the first time, musician.

To get a bit about my personality- Hmm... how should I go about this. If it's scattered then you'll have to either find another blog or learn to deal with it because I tend to write as things come to my mind and not care so much about proper structure of my sentences- one thing I never liked about English class by the way. I'm a bitch. Yes, I said it and I'll gladly repeat it one more time. I'm a total, sweet, sadistic, sometimes sociopathic, all around BITCH. Now just because I am a bitch it doesn't mean that I'm not likable or that it's impossible to get along with me. I have many facades like the next person but I'm just making sure that you all don't get side-swiped by my sweet demeanor. I will tell you exactly what I think of you with no hesitation whatsoever straight to your face. You're supposedly an adult that's able to handle the cold hard truth and not a kicked puppy that is slinking away with their tail tucked between their legs. So you have been warned. If you turn out to be shocked because you were too lazy to read through this entire thing then that's on you.

I have done many things within second life, mainly out of boredom and because I have to constantly be mentally stimulated to get anything done or else my brain tends to short circuit on idling away. I have done everything from writing, running a magazine, model, owning a business, etc. I'm a jack of all trades and I love expanding my horizons and experiences and anything I put my mind to comes to fruition. Now if you read this and think that, "Wow this woman must be unemployed if she's got so much time to do so many jobs." Well I can nip that shit in the bud right now- I'm gainfully employed with a wealth of knowledge to back me up. I just hate being bored at all costs and if I take on some jobs and learn some new trades then so be it.

Another thing that some may or may not know about me, depends on where and how you met me in second life, I am a dominatrix that enjoys a large variety of BDSM fetishes. I could probably list the things I've tried and mastered in both RL and SL but then I would probably be here all day so I'll just list a few of my favorites to save some time.

Humiliation (Physical/Verbal/Emotional/Public/Private)
Financial Domination
RL Control
Pony Play
Strap Ons
Tease and Denial
Orgasm Control (Short term/long term)
Chasity (Short term/Long term)
Blackmail
Pain (Mental/Physical/Emotional- light/mild)
Boot/Heel Worship(recieving)
Bondage (Long term/short term/strict/mild)

I've been a Mistress in real life for some years and honestly it's not a game in my eyes nor is it a "kink" but my lifestyle choice. Yes I enjoy the vanilla from time to time but my life would not be complete with out BDSM in it or seeing a boy curled up at my feet cleaning the dirt from my heel as I hold the leash to his collar. It's something that will always be a part of my make-up and personality. You think of BDSM as nothing but a bit of spice to add to your life or something to "play" at then I'm probably too far out of your league.